OK so I have a morbid sense of humor.
At least he shouldn't get called for defensive holding
Daaaang.
I hate to publicly admit this:
I have 2 or 3 really, really close compadres who freely share this type of humor among ourselves.
It's the rawest, real-est humor friends can share... because it cuts to the heart of Human Existence. I think We Brothers did it to blunt the pain of Reality- and give the Worst of Life some sense of balance. It's the ultimate defense/defiance mechanism: "You can hurt me for an entire lifetime... but You
will never defeat me. You
can't take my laughter away from me."
Just after I banged out "The Last Thanksgiving" in EE a few weeks ago, I shared a phone call with Byron. We've been there for each other since 1980. Best of Brothers, you know?
After I'd told him about 'The Last Thanksgiving," he hit me with a really crude, tasteless 'Alzheimer's punchline,' -and the two of us roared with laughter together (over a long-distance cell connection)just like we did back in 1980...
...in the living room of his house on Haller St. -after a truly exhausting and stupid waste of time, disguised as an orchestra rehearsal.
You see, GM: Byron was the very first human being on Earth to give me permission to laugh again, after the death of My Father. Pops died in July of 1979. Byron made me laugh in October, 1980.
He was able to give me that gift- because he lost his Father when he was 15.
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And two weeks after he buried His Mom, I was able to do the same for him, when I used His Mom's own words... in a darkly referential joke- that broke the tension for him. We howled like wolves that night... trying to 'one-up' each other in the "bad pun/death reference" category.
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It's not morbid at all, GM... as far as I'm concerned.
Because I
understand.
It's actually joyous and Life-affirming, as far as I'm concerned.
So- go on, with your Bad Self, as far as I'm concerned....
